Find kinky women in Alexandria

:fire: **Not here for quick scenes, pen pals, or long-distance power trips. If you’re real, local, age-appropriate(ish), and ready for more, read on.** :fire: In my everyday life, I’m the one in charge. I lead, manage chaos, and take care of everyone else. But behind closed doors, I want to let it go and be released from the confines of my own hypervigilance and self-inflicted independence. I want an emotionally present man whose authority is tangible and absolute: someone who doesn’t stand down or ask for permission but knows how to take control, handle me, and put me exactly where I belong—back into my feminine energy. I like strength with care and guidance toward my ultimate good, dominance with follow-through, and a man who can pin me down, correct me when I get mouthy, and still hold me afterward to remind me that I’m deeply kept and cherished, despite my many faults. I’m soft, curvy, service-driven, and very aware of how useful I can be to the right man. Explicit direction turns me on. Praise and punishment both have their place. I like intensity, impact, free use, the juxtaposition and mixing of *** and praise, being pushed to my edge, and being reminded that I’m your filthy little problem to deal with. I want to give myself fully, but only after a solid, fulfilling emotional connection comes first. I’m not here for hit-it-and-quit-it kink or being someone’s weekend fantasy. The dynamic I hold out for centers around depth, mutual care, and consistency. I recognize it’s a tall order. I’m worth it. Some of my favorite fantasies live right on the line between safety and surrender. Handing you the key. Knowing you’d show up without asking. Slipping in quietly while I sleep and taking what’s yours, always with trust and restraint behind the power. I want a level of ownership with a man who sees the human behind the filthy mouth and perverse desires. I’m ONLY looking for a serious, long-term, monogamous relationship with someone who is local, emotionally-available, age-appropriate (38+ish), and has actual, lived-out experience in all aspects of this lifestyle (not merely self-identifying as a Dominant because he has anger to work out and enjoys throwing someone around the bedroom). If you want something casual or short-term, I’m not your girl. If you want to build something real and take responsibility for what you claim, my DM’s are open. ❤️ (But be careful in how you approach — I’m quick to block.) **How I like men to communicate with me:** **Yes**, please, Daddy: :bite:** - Respectful, direct communication - Interest in a long-term, monogamous relationship - Clear intentions and honest follow-through - Calm confidence and emotional maturity - Curiosity about me as a person, not just sex - Boundaries taken seriously the first time **No, Sir (respectfully): 🙅‍♀️** - Leading with sex or sexual messages - Disrespectful or dismissive communication - Pushing after I’ve said no or I’m not interested - Cut and paste messages you’ve sent to dozens of other women/low effort - Looking for quick fixes, casual, or short-term dynamics - Poly, open, or ethically non-monogamous setups ——— My dirty code: https://dirtycode.io/U02WN == Results from bdsmtest.org: == 100% Degradee 100% Rope bunny 96% Submissive 92% Voyeur 91% Exhibitionist 83% Masochist 75% Pet 73% Experimentalist 66% Brat 53% Slave 22% Non-monogamist 20% Rigger 19% Primal (Prey) 18% Vanilla 12% Master/Mistress 12% Sadist 10% Dominant 9% Owner 7% Switch 6% Brat tamer 4% Daddy/Mommy 2% Primal (Hunter) 2% Degrader 0% Ageplayer 0% Little
Female (46) Alexandria, Virginia
I'm looking for a long term sweet relationship! My ideal partner is fun, energetic, and attentive! But I'm open to other possibilities! Anything is possible!😊
Female (36) Alexandria, Virginia
5ft5in 201lbs Caramel skin, thick, top heavy, love swimming, love dressing sexy. Reddish brown hair to my shoulders. Searching* Did hard core bdsm sessions for 15 years, now I jus wanna be desired worshipped adored! AND SERVED I'm looking for friends or Subs! Maybe a sweet daddy, but that would be more longterm. Not into submitting but have had to be domestic as a wife n mom and I hate it. I'm here to be Me to feel free, to feel anything again. Learning what the new me likes date by date. Can you convince me ur worth my time? I used to have a foot fetish, but I need to re evaluate what turns me on! Besides a really good pressureless Maasage! But more than anything a long-term commitment if those exist in this lifestyle. Trust at my age with kids is not easy to come by!
Female (30) Alexandria, Virginia
howdy! I’m a single gal tired of trying to drag vanilla dudes into kinky situations. put together professional in a field that lets me be as kooky as I want to be. in my down time, I like to work on fiber art projects, bake, practice archery, listen to new wave/post-punk, and chill with my 1001 cats. really, I’m just a goofy little goblin looking for a big ol’ hunk of handsome to hang my hat on (swipe left now). maybe that’s a silly row to hoe around these parts, but I like to try my hands at all kinds of side quests.*** that, and I was banned from okcupid. (ask me how!) ***see here: experimenting with new cookie recipes; comics & comixxx; making (p)hat girl salads; sex, food, and early modern history; diy dopamine decor: and various fiber arts. currently fixated on ceramics (hand building) and archery. And some other things I dig: Currently Reading: dunno! you should ask. probably some breed of historical fiction (early modern period-late Victorian), but a contemporary sci-fi thriller is also a safe bet. Top 5 Fave Movies: Crimson Peak, Hasu, the Adventures of Baron Munchousen, the Forbidden Zone, and Once Upon a Time in Hollywood Music genres: 60’s country western, 70s/80’s new wave and post-punk, 90’s pop country, sad-sack early ‘aughts emo, weird kitschy stuff from any era (but especially the 50’s and 60’s). Want a playlist? Here ya go: https://open.spotify.com/playlist/4CgSauj4FPx6wiH58XB5u3?si=NGFN9YVGQduIpDLYaFkWMw&pi=YOaOOJAOQ3a7A
Female (35) Alexandria, Virginia
I am not looking for a hook-up or a ONS. If this is what you are looking for, please keep moving. I am a Sapoisexual and a Demiromantic, if you don't connect with me on a deeper level, you will never get in my pants. If you are going to send me a message, please say more than hi! I am an alpha submissive looking for my exclusive Pleasure/Daddy Dom. If you fit this description and are interested in seeing if we can make a deeper connection, please tell me about yourself.
Female (40) Alexandria, Virginia
I'm just curious about this app and the people in it. I consider myself to lean sub, but I'm open to being switch, maybe with another woman. I'm not too experienced or into hard stuff.
Female (25) Alexandria, Virginia
I’m new to the BDSM scene and looking to explore it in a safe, consensual, and thoughtful way. I’m interested in a long-term dynamic with a gentle dom who’s patient and understanding as I learn and grow. Communication, trust, and respect are really important to me. I also want to mention my boundaries, such as avoiding any activities involving bodily fluids like feces, urine, or ***. Additionally, I’m open to exploring bondage and other aspects of the dynamic. And on the flip side, I’m also open to taking on a dominatrix role if the dynamic fits. I’m excited to find someone who shares these values and can guide me on this journey.
Female (40) Alexandria, Virginia
ask me anything you want;) looking for daddy. yes im real, and if ur not a weirdo I have no problem showing you:) here looking for a specific arrangement so I can delete this and get my kink satisfied:))
Female (25) Alexandria, Virginia
First thing you need to understand I'm NOT a Dom/ Mistressif that is what you are looking for keep stepping. I'm not a slave and I say NO also if you are here just to fuck keep stepping. I'm looking for a Dom/Daddy not a fuck boy. If you have answered correctly so far then keep reading. I'm a brat that likes to top from the bottom sometimes, I just want a good spanking sometimes. I'm looking for a man, please no boys. I need a wolf looking for their bunny. Growling, required. I love sucking cock. I also love it when you read to me, I am not a slave so if that is what you are looking for, keep stepping. LTR ONLY PLEASE. I'm not looking for just a hook up. FYI : I bit, not hard enough to cut skin just a nibble
Female (55) Alexandria, Virginia
In Alexandria va if you ain’t close don’t waste my time 4/20 friendly 💨🍃 Plus size so if that ain’t your vibe move on Im here for a good time not no long time Two kids 👧👶so please know they come first and my availability is limited
Female (25) Alexandria, Virginia
I love being watched while I play with myself. I’m really into the kinky stuff and pleasing others. I love making custom videos for those who like watching, but I love going live and being told what to do for a large group of people. Makes me drip. I’m working up to doing in person live parties but whoa that might be a future thing lol ☀️ OF Sinchip❤️ I’m a ***al loving camgirl so you know I’m not scared of kinks. Let’s have a conversation about your wet dreams, what gets you going and how I can get you going.
Female (20) Alexandria, Virginia
my name is Christina. I am 47 years old and divorced. looking to explore and learn new experiences. I consider myself very shy with a smart mouth. looking for long term relationship.
Female (47) Alexandria, Virginia
Trilingual, biracial, bicultural, pansexual, sapiosexual, non-monogamous, sex positive, leftist, neurodivergent, do-gooder. HSV positive but no outbreaks in years. vaxxed and tested 2/2025. Prefer my kink to come with emotional and physical intimacy, security, and safety. Looking for a primary partner and/or friends. A sub who is into BDSM, touching, 1:1, and group play. In the right scenario, would welcome a gang bang (still on my bucket list). Emotionally available pleasure Doms to the front of the line! Don’t enjoy: right wing, trump lovers, LGBTQ phobes, oligarchs. My soul is much younger than my years.
Female (58) Alexandria, Virginia
I enjoy all things outdoors but I have extra love for being at the water (ocean, river, lake). I’m looking for friends (some with benefits to share with male friend) that want to go on adventures and enjoy life.
Female (50) Alexandria, Virginia
Looking for something casual and fun. I am a busy woman and don’t have the mental capacity to date. Fighting urge every day not to be a bitch to men so don’t give me an excuse. I want to get laid but the window of that need comes and goes.
Female (27) Alexandria, Virginia
hey lovers! I'm kimmie 💋 I am very in tune with my spirituality and sexuality and I'm open to exploring more. my time is the most precious thing to me so let's not waste it drifting and let's float in the clouds together instead 💕
Female (37) Alexandria, Virginia
Sub who is looking for someone to control my orgasms. I love being denied for long periods of time and just pleasing my Master/Mistress. My biggest kinks are breeding, *** play, and long-term orgasm denial :)
Female (25) Alexandria, Virginia

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I'm looking for a long term sweet relationship! My ideal partner is fun, energetic, and attentive! But I'm open to other possibilities! Anything is possible!😊
Female (36) Alexandria, Virginia
5ft5in 201lbs Caramel skin, thick, top heavy, love swimming, love dressing sexy. Reddish brown hair to my shoulders. Searching* Did hard core bdsm sessions for 15 years, now I jus wanna be desired worshipped adored! AND SERVED I'm looking for friends or Subs! Maybe a sweet daddy, but that would be more longterm. Not into submitting but have had to be domestic as a wife n mom and I hate it. I'm here to be Me to feel free, to feel anything again. Learning what the new me likes date by date. Can you convince me ur worth my time? I used to have a foot fetish, but I need to re evaluate what turns me on! Besides a really good pressureless Maasage! But more than anything a long-term commitment if those exist in this lifestyle. Trust at my age with kids is not easy to come by!
Female (30) Alexandria, Virginia
:fire: **Not here for quick scenes, pen pals, or long-distance power trips. If you’re real, local, age-appropriate(ish), and ready for more, read on.** :fire: In my everyday life, I’m the one in charge. I lead, manage chaos, and take care of everyone else. But behind closed doors, I want to let it go and be released from the confines of my own hypervigilance and self-inflicted independence. I want an emotionally present man whose authority is tangible and absolute: someone who doesn’t stand down or ask for permission but knows how to take control, handle me, and put me exactly where I belong—back into my feminine energy. I like strength with care and guidance toward my ultimate good, dominance with follow-through, and a man who can pin me down, correct me when I get mouthy, and still hold me afterward to remind me that I’m deeply kept and cherished, despite my many faults. I’m soft, curvy, service-driven, and very aware of how useful I can be to the right man. Explicit direction turns me on. Praise and punishment both have their place. I like intensity, impact, free use, the juxtaposition and mixing of *** and praise, being pushed to my edge, and being reminded that I’m your filthy little problem to deal with. I want to give myself fully, but only after a solid, fulfilling emotional connection comes first. I’m not here for hit-it-and-quit-it kink or being someone’s weekend fantasy. The dynamic I hold out for centers around depth, mutual care, and consistency. I recognize it’s a tall order. I’m worth it. Some of my favorite fantasies live right on the line between safety and surrender. Handing you the key. Knowing you’d show up without asking. Slipping in quietly while I sleep and taking what’s yours, always with trust and restraint behind the power. I want a level of ownership with a man who sees the human behind the filthy mouth and perverse desires. I’m ONLY looking for a serious, long-term, monogamous relationship with someone who is local, emotionally-available, age-appropriate (38+ish), and has actual, lived-out experience in all aspects of this lifestyle (not merely self-identifying as a Dominant because he has anger to work out and enjoys throwing someone around the bedroom). If you want something casual or short-term, I’m not your girl. If you want to build something real and take responsibility for what you claim, my DM’s are open. ❤️ (But be careful in how you approach — I’m quick to block.) **How I like men to communicate with me:** **Yes**, please, Daddy: :bite:** - Respectful, direct communication - Interest in a long-term, monogamous relationship - Clear intentions and honest follow-through - Calm confidence and emotional maturity - Curiosity about me as a person, not just sex - Boundaries taken seriously the first time **No, Sir (respectfully): 🙅‍♀️** - Leading with sex or sexual messages - Disrespectful or dismissive communication - Pushing after I’ve said no or I’m not interested - Cut and paste messages you’ve sent to dozens of other women/low effort - Looking for quick fixes, casual, or short-term dynamics - Poly, open, or ethically non-monogamous setups ——— My dirty code: https://dirtycode.io/U02WN == Results from bdsmtest.org: == 100% Degradee 100% Rope bunny 96% Submissive 92% Voyeur 91% Exhibitionist 83% Masochist 75% Pet 73% Experimentalist 66% Brat 53% Slave 22% Non-monogamist 20% Rigger 19% Primal (Prey) 18% Vanilla 12% Master/Mistress 12% Sadist 10% Dominant 9% Owner 7% Switch 6% Brat tamer 4% Daddy/Mommy 2% Primal (Hunter) 2% Degrader 0% Ageplayer 0% Little
Female (46) Alexandria, Virginia
I’m new to the BDSM scene and looking to explore it in a safe, consensual, and thoughtful way. I’m interested in a long-term dynamic with a gentle dom who’s patient and understanding as I learn and grow. Communication, trust, and respect are really important to me. I also want to mention my boundaries, such as avoiding any activities involving bodily fluids like feces, urine, or ***. Additionally, I’m open to exploring bondage and other aspects of the dynamic. And on the flip side, I’m also open to taking on a dominatrix role if the dynamic fits. I’m excited to find someone who shares these values and can guide me on this journey.
Female (40) Alexandria, Virginia
In Alexandria va if you ain’t close don’t waste my time 4/20 friendly 💨🍃 Plus size so if that ain’t your vibe move on Im here for a good time not no long time Two kids 👧👶so please know they come first and my availability is limited
Female (25) Alexandria, Virginia
my name is Christina. I am 47 years old and divorced. looking to explore and learn new experiences. I consider myself very shy with a smart mouth. looking for long term relationship.
Female (47) Alexandria, Virginia
Looking for something casual and fun. I am a busy woman and don’t have the mental capacity to date. Fighting urge every day not to be a bitch to men so don’t give me an excuse. I want to get laid but the window of that need comes and goes.
Female (27) Alexandria, Virginia
hey lovers! I'm kimmie 💋 I am very in tune with my spirituality and sexuality and I'm open to exploring more. my time is the most precious thing to me so let's not waste it drifting and let's float in the clouds together instead 💕
Female (37) Alexandria, Virginia
I love being watched while I play with myself. I’m really into the kinky stuff and pleasing others. I love making custom videos for those who like watching, but I love going live and being told what to do for a large group of people. Makes me drip. I’m working up to doing in person live parties but whoa that might be a future thing lol ☀️ OF Sinchip❤️ I’m a ***al loving camgirl so you know I’m not scared of kinks. Let’s have a conversation about your wet dreams, what gets you going and how I can get you going.
Female (20) Alexandria, Virginia
I'm just curious about this app and the people in it. I consider myself to lean sub, but I'm open to being switch, maybe with another woman. I'm not too experienced or into hard stuff.
Female (25) Alexandria, Virginia
Trilingual, biracial, bicultural, pansexual, sapiosexual, non-monogamous, sex positive, leftist, neurodivergent, do-gooder. HSV positive but no outbreaks in years. vaxxed and tested 2/2025. Prefer my kink to come with emotional and physical intimacy, security, and safety. Looking for a primary partner and/or friends. A sub who is into BDSM, touching, 1:1, and group play. In the right scenario, would welcome a gang bang (still on my bucket list). Emotionally available pleasure Doms to the front of the line! Don’t enjoy: right wing, trump lovers, LGBTQ phobes, oligarchs. My soul is much younger than my years.
Female (58) Alexandria, Virginia
howdy! I’m a single gal tired of trying to drag vanilla dudes into kinky situations. put together professional in a field that lets me be as kooky as I want to be. in my down time, I like to work on fiber art projects, bake, practice archery, listen to new wave/post-punk, and chill with my 1001 cats. really, I’m just a goofy little goblin looking for a big ol’ hunk of handsome to hang my hat on (swipe left now). maybe that’s a silly row to hoe around these parts, but I like to try my hands at all kinds of side quests.*** that, and I was banned from okcupid. (ask me how!) ***see here: experimenting with new cookie recipes; comics & comixxx; making (p)hat girl salads; sex, food, and early modern history; diy dopamine decor: and various fiber arts. currently fixated on ceramics (hand building) and archery. And some other things I dig: Currently Reading: dunno! you should ask. probably some breed of historical fiction (early modern period-late Victorian), but a contemporary sci-fi thriller is also a safe bet. Top 5 Fave Movies: Crimson Peak, Hasu, the Adventures of Baron Munchousen, the Forbidden Zone, and Once Upon a Time in Hollywood Music genres: 60’s country western, 70s/80’s new wave and post-punk, 90’s pop country, sad-sack early ‘aughts emo, weird kitschy stuff from any era (but especially the 50’s and 60’s). Want a playlist? Here ya go: https://open.spotify.com/playlist/4CgSauj4FPx6wiH58XB5u3?si=NGFN9YVGQduIpDLYaFkWMw&pi=YOaOOJAOQ3a7A
Female (35) Alexandria, Virginia
I am not looking for a hook-up or a ONS. If this is what you are looking for, please keep moving. I am a Sapoisexual and a Demiromantic, if you don't connect with me on a deeper level, you will never get in my pants. If you are going to send me a message, please say more than hi! I am an alpha submissive looking for my exclusive Pleasure/Daddy Dom. If you fit this description and are interested in seeing if we can make a deeper connection, please tell me about yourself.
Female (40) Alexandria, Virginia
First thing you need to understand I'm NOT a Dom/ Mistressif that is what you are looking for keep stepping. I'm not a slave and I say NO also if you are here just to fuck keep stepping. I'm looking for a Dom/Daddy not a fuck boy. If you have answered correctly so far then keep reading. I'm a brat that likes to top from the bottom sometimes, I just want a good spanking sometimes. I'm looking for a man, please no boys. I need a wolf looking for their bunny. Growling, required. I love sucking cock. I also love it when you read to me, I am not a slave so if that is what you are looking for, keep stepping. LTR ONLY PLEASE. I'm not looking for just a hook up. FYI : I bit, not hard enough to cut skin just a nibble
Female (55) Alexandria, Virginia
ask me anything you want;) looking for daddy. yes im real, and if ur not a weirdo I have no problem showing you:) here looking for a specific arrangement so I can delete this and get my kink satisfied:))
Female (25) Alexandria, Virginia
I enjoy all things outdoors but I have extra love for being at the water (ocean, river, lake). I’m looking for friends (some with benefits to share with male friend) that want to go on adventures and enjoy life.
Female (50) Alexandria, Virginia
Sub who is looking for someone to control my orgasms. I love being denied for long periods of time and just pleasing my Master/Mistress. My biggest kinks are breeding, *** play, and long-term orgasm denial :)
Female (25) Alexandria, Virginia

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